... is something I love to do and be. It really is. But honestly it's SO damn hard. Why is it so hard for men to wrap their heads around the fact that yes, even though you go to work every day, moms NEVER have a day off?
I have to say though, my husband does an extremely good job on helping me around the house and with our daughters.
We've pretty much found our roles in the house and are in a really good groove.
He gives Kendall a bath every night - dries her, lotions her baby skin and dresses her. Then I take over and feed her, swaddle her (he hasn't gotten the swaddle down to a quick science like I have, lol) then he puts her to sleep and she's out till 3am. He gets up with her then - changes, & feeds then wakes me only to swaddle her up once more.At 6am I get up with her because at 7 I get Makenna ready for school, pack her lunch while I let John sleep in a bit more. Then John (if he doesnt work in the AM that day) takes her to school so Kendall and I can go back to sleep for 2 hours.
Our house is surprisingly still in perfect condition most days. I do dishes during the day and if there is anything at night he does them. I do laundry at least once a day and most of the time he'll fold & put it away.
Even on his days off he's amazing. One of his days we'll lounge around the house or go run errands but the other day is MOMMY DAY. He takes the girls out for pretty much the whole day while I get to be at home (or go to where I want by myself!). A normal person would probably sleep though, wouldn't you think? What do I do? I clean. I deep clean the bathrooms, kitchen, dust, do extra laundry.. you name it. I've figured out I clean because I get to do it uninterupted. I dont have Makenna stopping me every 2 seconds or a baby crying that I have to tend to. I can just clean at my own pace and make sure it's done to my standard. But even once I'm done cleaning I hop online and tweet. Lol, I know I'm a tad bit crazy.
I've been a stay-at-home mom since December of last year (2009). We had already decided once I was pregnant that I wouldn't work anymore. We have the means and I definitely do not need to work so thankfully I was able to quit my job and be at home with Makenna and have a very relaxing pregnancy.
Most women wish for my job. To not work and just be at home with their kids. Believe me, I do love it and I never take for granted that I don't have to work. My husband is amazing for having 2 jobs (well only 1 really counts since the other doesn't bring us an income to really count on. He just has it for the perks!) and he never complains about having to work and then coming home to take Kendall off my hands. I'm finding that even with Makenna in school for 6 1/2 hours every day I WANT to work again. I've always been that type though. I work extremely hard and I always want a job. Being at home makes me so restless (probably why I clean so much) and I get cabin fever very easily.
John doesn't want me to work since I don't have to, plus in his family "the women shouldn't have to work, that's the man's job" (his family rules... not mine, lol). But he and his family had another thing coming when I stepped into the picture. I love working, which is why I've been applying for jobs. The problem I keep encountering when I go in for interviews is my schedule. Even though I wanna work I only want maybe 10 hours/week. Of course everyone wants me to work more or make me a manager (since that's my background), which would mean lots of hours and long hours.
So now I'm stuck. I want to work but I don't want to work a lot.
I guess I'll just stick to my mommy job and call it a day.