Thursday, November 17, 2011

Dating a Mom With Kids

By Jennifer (Double Duty Mommy) at 10:12 AM
What a lot of people don't know is that my oldest daughter isn't my husband's daughter. When I chose to keep her when I got pregnant at 19 it was a very hard decision because I knew I wasn't going to stay with her dad. I had a lot of things running through my mind like I would be single forever. It was a very hard but as hard as it was I loved my daughter and things were never has hard as I imagined they would be.

Men and women dating people with kids is not rare these days and is more common then we all realize. With every one's busy schedules it's hard to get back in the game and meet people. More then 80% of relationships start online and there are lots of free dating websites around so it's hard to find the best one.

I didn't find my husband online but I did dabble in the idea of it. It's sorta like a blind date except you know a lot more about them before you go out, which is a good thing if you ask me.

I met my husband at work and even though he is younger he instantly jumped at the role to be a step-dad. It was all circumstantial and if events that transpired previously to us meeting then well, we wouldn't have met and our lives would be a lot different.

More women are getting in on the action to dating single parents since more men are taking on the role of single dad. I personally like to see that so many men are stepping up to take care of their kids instead of just leaving the mom to do it.

I was very lucky to find a great man to take on my family and help me create a bigger family with him. Our journey has been interesting to say the least and despite the typical "it won't last" comments we have and will continue to grow our love and family.

5 commented:

Jennifer H on November 18, 2011 at 9:53 PM said...

Awww :)

aperry on November 21, 2011 at 7:05 PM said...

thanks for the post.

I am a newly single mother :(

Marcie W. on November 28, 2011 at 11:24 AM said...

Our situations are pretty similar! I was also lucky to find an amazing man to step to the plate for BOTH of my daughters and here we are over 5yrs later!

Eileen said...

I am going to show this post to my daughter, who has just had a little girl at age 19 and is not with dad. I know she feels so hopeless with the situation already, thinking how hard it is going to be to find a man with family values and also others being put into the parent situation,...dealing with another being her daughter's step mom someday. It is so overwhelming. But she needs to know a lot of people have gotten through and life can be happy and GOOD with these situations. Myself, I was a mom of 3 when I got out of a bad, BAD marrieage. I moved away with the kids and re settled. Ending up marrying a man 8 years younger and have 3 kids together. Although some bumps in the road with our situation, it has been enriching and posititive for the most part. I don't look at him as "My saviour" because he was a man that stepped up to the plate to be a step dad...but I do feel blessed that we found each other. The kids gave him lots of learning experiences and love too. So happy you found each other!

Vanessa Coker said...

Awww that's so sweet!

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